If you Dread Alone Time, It’s Time for Self-Work

As my girls went away for the long weekend, I was sitting in a quiet and a very clean house, reading my book. Yes, I love reading books. And I came across a line that stopped me for a moment and inspired me to write this blog:

“If you dread alone time, it means it’s time for some self-work”.

It struck me because of its truth and simplicity. Those few words capture something many people sense but rarely name - the idea that our reaction to stillness says a lot about our inner world.

Why Solitude Can Feel Uncomfortable
When life slows down and distractions fade, out attention naturally turns inward. Sometimes what we find there feels unfamiliar or even confronting. Old emotions, unprocessed experiences, or quiet self-judgements can rise to the surface. So, we scroll. We work. We stay busy. Because it’s easier to drown out the inner world than to sit with it. But it’s not the “being alone” that most fear, it is the “meeting yourself”.

This doesn’t mean something is wrong, it simply means there’s more within us that wants acknowledgment. Solitude is not emptiness - it’s feedback. It shows us where connection with ourselves could deepen.

The Call Toward Self-Work
Self-work is the process of meeting what we find inside with curiosity instead of avoidance. It’s noticing, reflecting, and allowing awareness to grow. True self-work doesn’t demand perfection or endless analysis - it invites gentleness and presence.

It can look like:
-taking a mindful breath before reacting
-journaling what arisies rather than supressing it
-practicing gratitude to shift focus toward what’s working
-observing your thoughts as experinces, not indentities

Each of these is a small act of self-leadership - choosing awareness over distraction.

From Awareness to Embodiment
Inner growth isn’t only mental; it’s physical and energetic. That’s where inner work and breathwork become essential.

Through intentional breathing, you create a bridge between mind and body - releasing tension, calming the nervous system, and accessing deeper emotional layers that words often can’t reach.

9D Breathwork in particular combines sound, frequency, and guided breath patterns to open this connection even further. It allows you to process stored emotions safely, expand self-awareness and experience a fuller sense of presence.

The Role of Masculine and Feminine Energy
Being able to sit with yourself, to feel and process what’s inside, is a cornerstone of true masculine energy. Strength isn’t just about doing or achieving - it’s about presence, awareness, and emotional courage.

And this inner work is just as important for the feminine, who benefits equally from cultivating self-awareness, emotional resilience, and connection with their own energy. In this Movember, as we focus on men’s mental health, remembering that both the masculine and feminine thrive through conscious self-work is more important than ever.

Closing Reflection
If being alone feels uncomfortable, take it as a gentle nudge inward. Its not a flaw; its a doorway - an invitation to understand beyond the noise of daily life.

Start where you are.
Pause, breathe and listen.

Because the moment you can rest comfortably in your own presence, you unlock one of life’s quietest but most powerful freedoms. And if you are ready to explore that connection on a deeper, embodies level, 9D Breathwork is a transformative place to begin.